The Art of Marriage ~ Part 2 ~ Love Fades

Love Fades

Our second session was Love Fades. Love can fade for different reasons, a natural drift, differences or weaknesses or sin. It never starts out that way. There is hope and joy of sharing ones life together. Then, life happens and some couples don't continue to make their marriage a top priority. This culture has conditioned us that our own happiness should be #1, our own selfishness.

What has caused you to drift?

Genesis 3:1-16 paints a picture of what is happening in the Garden of Eden. The serpent comes to Eve and asks the woman, "Did God actually say, You shall not eat of any tree in the garden?" Eve said, "We can eat of any fruit of the tree, except that one. If we eat of it, we shall surely die." The serpent said, "Surely you shall not die, but your eyes will be opened and you shall be like God." So, the woman saw it was good for food and took the fruit and ate and gave some to her husband who was with her, and he ate.

The results of their sin were...Shame, Guilt, Fear, Blame Shifting and Battle for Control


We have fallout today, as a result of this sin. Another result of this sin was marital conflict. Do you blame your spouse or do they blame you when something isn't done right.  Is there a battle for control in certain areas of your lives. Do you feel like you fight over the same things, all the time. Do your arguments start over something small, then grow. There is a spiritual battle occurring within marriage, but there is an enemy and it's not your spouse.

 Ephesians 6 says,
 ¹¹Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil.
 ¹²For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.
 ¹³Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.

• We need to learn how to resist that natural drift in marriage

• We must take responsibility for our own sin and reconcile with God.

•  The sacrifice of Jesus allows us to live in peace with God and others .

• You must learn to walk each day by the power of the Holy Spirit in order to stay close to your spouse.

Above all, make Christ the center of your life and marriage and make your relationship with your spouse a top priority. Plan a date night. Find things that you have in common and enjoy them together.